The controversy between relationships & having fun

Something that came to mind for the past few days is basically why men and women - although claimed to be equal- are still different in society's eyes.

The fact that men can do whatever and whomever and still not be judged really bothers me considering women who do the same thing are labelled, and not in a good way.

The way I see it is that with men, it's either you're in a relationship OR you're just a fuck buddy. No in betweens. I believe it's hard on the womens part because she has to choose between a relationship and basically being labelled.

Now, if she chooses to take on the role of not being in a relationship, but rather having fun with men, society seems to dislike that idea and this is when harsh names are being thrown around.

Back to the quote I mentioned earlier with men, it’s either you’re in a relationship OR you’re just a fuck buddy. No in betweens., if the girl chooses to be single and have her fun with men, will she be labeled as a slut? I’m pretty sure everyone’s heard the phrase “Stay single and go have fun with boys while you’re still young.” But what do they mean when they say “have fun”.. I spoke to my friend earlier today hoping she would have some advice on this topic:

NATALIE. says: people have a twisted perception of fun. people are so horny

Leah* says: yeah but seriously speaking when someone says go have fun with guys do you honestly think they’re telling u to go play checkers?

NATALIE. says: fun is sex to them and thats sad

Leah* says: its fun for everyone if you think about it, but what is a girls perception of the phrase "go have fun with guys"

NATALIE. says: the literal meaning of fun, being going and doing something spontaneous going to a movie or go-karting or something like that not just a sexual relationship

Leah* says: but then that leads to a relationship, which some people do not want when they’re young.

NATALIE. says: and girls really only want to have sex because they think that’s why guys will like them

Leah* says: not necessarily some girls just want their “piece” too

NATALIE. says: although there are some girls who are like guys and have that same mentality

Leah* says: i think this whole topic contradicts itself

NATALIE. says: i agree; its so complicated and u shouldn’t feel like u have to have sex in order to keep a guy around either because unfortunately a lot of girls think like that

Leah* says: no no that’s not what im thinking… in the words of jwoww "after I have sex with a guy I will rip his head off" my interpretation of that is, have your fun but with out emotions; fuck the guy and be gone. And if it makes you sound like a slut, so what? 434848943893489 guys do that and we girls can’t?

It’s a twisted and complicated world and I truly believe that if a girl wants to unleash herself a bit, then she should. If she’s not ready to settle down in a relationship, let her have her fun while she still can. If people don’t like it, then they shouldn’t care.

Don’t get me wrong though, I’m not saying every girl should go “fuck” every man possible. All I’m saying is that it is okay for women to let loose sometimes.

This whole discussion concludes with this thought:

Define the term “fun” when it comes to being with a man, but don’t get it twisted with relationship.